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10 tips for a successful long-distance relationship

Neither you are a prescribed pill, nor your partner a patient that he/she has to call you after breakfast, lunch, snacks and dinner. In short, stop being over-communicative if you want to exhaust yourself as well as your partner.

No matter how much your parents discourage or your friends turn unsupportive and advice on a re-thinking, you have every chance of getting into a long-distance relationship with social networking sites and dating apps playing Cupid every time you are online.

Now while you feel the entire world is playing villain to your pink romance, let us help you out with 10 tips on how to shut critic-mouths and make your relationship work:

1. Stop being like a prescribed pill

Neither you are a prescribed pill, nor your partner a patient that he/she has to call you after breakfast, lunch, snacks and dinner. In short, stop being over-communicative if you want to exhaust yourself as well as your partner.

2. Be honest with yourself, your partner

… And in order to do so, you will need to set some “ground rules” so that you know what to expect of the relationship. For example, is it okay for you or your partner to go on a casual date with someone else? Be clear on each other’s needs and desires to avoid future frustrations and embarrassment which might lead to a break-up.

3. Take care of simple things

Show you care. A simple “Good Morning” and “Good Night” will not pinch your pocket but will surely have a positive effect on your partner.

4. Think long-term

Honestly, no matter how much you two are in love and distance doesn’t matter right now, eventually, you will need to think about settling down, unless you have other plans. So, before committing yourself to the relationship, ask yourself the following questions –

i) What do I expect from this relationship?
ii) What is my partner looking for in this relationship?
iii) How much time do I want to invest in this long-distance relationship?
iv) Where do we see our relationship heading in future?

5. Avoid personal conversations on social media

It is a different thing that you two met on the social media. But having personal, intimate conversations on social media should be a big “NO”. Rather, give your fingers a little rest, and communicate directly.

6. Give space to your partner and enjoy yours

Respect each other’s independent space. Both of you have your own worlds to attend to every day. So, don’t nag and don’t expect him/her to consult you for every single thing – from filing I-T Returns to which socks/nail paint to wear!

7. Make short trips to your partner’s place

Make it a ritual to visit your partner, even if it is once a year. Both of you will wait and make plans the whole year for this one holiday!

8. Make the most of your time

It surely hurts when you have to spend the Valentine’s Day alone while lovebirds keep merrily chirping around you. But instead of cursing your luck or getting depressed, don’t wait for your partner to buy you a chocolate. Hop into the next sweet parlour and indulge yourself.

9. Spend some time together … daily

Make it a habit to watch a film or play a game or read a book or shop online … together, every day, even if it’s for half-an-hour. You can bank on video calls or Skype where you two can spend some quality time together, even when away from each other.

10. Keep updated on each other

That include current schedules, latest developments in family, friends, office. This is very important if you want to avoid miscommunications and misunderstandings.

Above all, stay positive. The wait is definitely painful. But if the wait is worth it, then have no second thoughts about it.

Big Wire

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